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Paverbs Explained Ep.2 - The Power Of Communciation

On the second episode of Paverbs Explained, Pavy breaks down the power of communication & why you should always seek to openly communicate with those around you.

As Justin Bieber readies to drop much anticipated new music, enjoy this Barber's Chair playlist of the best hits in Bieberveli's arsenal! 
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Throw your diamonds up for more than a decade of heat with the new TIDAL-exclusive Roc La Familia playlist from The Barber's Chair! The greatest hits from the most prolific label in hip hop history.
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Random Acts of Podcast EP233: BET Horny

On this week's episode of RAOP we read your memories of talking yourselves out of vagina, give playoff predictions, chat about butt naked barbers and a ton more other topics. Remember to send in YOUR questions, #TheyNeedTheirAssBeat or #RealNiggaOfTheWeek submissions, email us at MAIL@RAOPodcast.com or call 424-260-RAOP to leave a voicemail.

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Random Acts of Podcast EP201: #CrownRoyalWaterBreak

WE BACK! On this week’s episode of RAOP Amp and Devin bring back @MalcJax and go over all the stuff they missed while on hiatus, what men mean when they ask women for pics, supporting your homie’s porn careers, married men living through their single friends and more! Plus we answer questions from the listeners. Remember to send in your listener questions to email us at MAIL@RAOPodcast.com or call 424-260-RAOP to leave a voicemail.

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Random Acts of Podcast - I just threw up IDK how you not scorned right now

On this week's episode of RAOP, while Devin is on the run from the Feds we start off with an email about why the City Girls Matter, people being snobs about dates, dudes trying to hard to impress women online and a ton more other topics. Also we answer emails from the listeners. Remember to send in your listener questions, #TheyNeedTheirAssBeat or #RealNiggaOfTheWeek submissions, email us at MAIL@RAOPodcast.com or call 424-260-RAOP to leave a voicemail.

Random Acts of Podcast EP 193: The Return of Jalen Ramsey

This week on RAOP Devin & Amp start off with a prayer for the potential Teanna Trump & Brittany Renner porn, we chop it about cheating on barbers, dating cam girls, Metro Boomin's legacy and a ton more other topics. Also we answer emails from the listeners. Remember to send in your listener questions, #TheyNeedTheirAssBeat or #RealNiggaOfTheWeek submissions, email us at MAIL@RAOPodcast.com or call 424-260-RAOP to leave a voicemail.

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Twitter is helping to shape the conversations revolving around our favorite TV shows

Since the introduction of Twitter we have been blessed with an efficient platform for expressing our thoughts, emotions, and funny quips until our hearts are content. And quite often we come together and take in pop culture events like a family. We live tweet our praises or criticisms, observations, and sometimes how we relate to the material.

With shows like Insecure, Atlanta, and Master of None in which a romantic relationship aspect is a large part of the shows’ designs the thought of tweeting out how we relate to the material is very compelling. We choose sides like #TeamLawrence or #TeamIssa, and we rationalize the behavior and decisions of each character. Women can be found rationalizing how Issa had the right to infidelity because Lawrence wasn’t living up to his responsibilities. You can find men rationalizing Dev’s decision in Master of None to proudly, boldly break up an engaged couple.

We all have different experiences and when these shows strike a cord with us it’s hard not engage with others who relate to us or see what people who engage in the material shows as we do have to say. I find myself re-watching these shows often because of the genius of them and I personally do connect with some of the stories. I tweet about them, text my friends about who is right or wrong, and I become fully invested.

These shows also expose the psychology and insecurities many of us have. Themes like infidelity and dishonesty being acted out in the shows can mirror situations we’ve been through and cause certain traumas to resurface. We broadcast all of these emotions on Twitter and it becomes a group therapy session or a week long argument. Memorandums on relationships are being sent out constantly. Men pretending to be devoid of emotion for women are acting out through 280 characters. Women being anecdotal and applying their experiences and those of the television show to all relationships to confirm the “men ain’t shit” mantra. A lot of times these conversations can be draining and no really productivity arises out of them, but the show creators must be ecstatic.

Creating shows that are reflective to the millennial dating experience and being able to connect with the audience in such a way is phenomenal. Episodes such as Master of None’s “First Date” in which Dev is on rollercoaster of date, scenes in Atlanta where Van and Earn are fleshing out their expectations of their relationship in painful fashion, or Issa confessing to Lawrence on Insecure, these shows have all of us reexamining our past romantic escapades. And we bring these experiences to the internet, whether to just to share or to engage with others the creators of the show and show-runners have done their job of getting us invested.

Five creative ways to celebrate Valentine's Day

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, a lot of people are making reservations at fancy restaurants or still trying to figure out their game plan for the special person in their life. Some see going to a restaurant as the classic Valentine’s Day date night, but many times those are overpriced and very cliché. It is great to think outside of the box without totally breaking the bank, while putting in significant effort celebrating the love you share between each other. Here are some creative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day.

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Pinterest

Create a Picture Collage or Scrapbook

What better way to gift your Valentine than to put together pictures of memories you’ve shared together. A lot of people share pictures so heavily on social media that we don’t get to appreciate the physical form of them. Documenting moments that matter in a scrapbook is a fun and personalized way to show how much you are thankful for them being in your life.


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Notonthehighstreet Enterprises

Have a Scavenger Hunt

This can be done just about anywhere, either at home or around the town. You can customize it however you want by giving your valentine different tasks to do to solve the hunt. For example, having them follow a map based on places that represent a past experience y’all had with a clue at each place until they get to the final destination leading to the date spot, or if at home, leading to a gift in a hidden place.


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TempleSquare

Chef It Up

Maybe you’re not the best cook, or perhaps you can give #Saltbae a run for his money in the kitchen. Either way, what is a dish your valentine absolutely loves or better yet, something you both love? Find the recipe for it and gather all the ingredients, make a song playlist to set the right mood whether it be trap music or neo-soul, grab some wine, and have your valentine in the kitchen with you to prepare the dish. This is a sure fun way to make a great dinner, just follow the directions correctly!

Another option: take a couple’s cooking class, This private session will be guided by a chef to ensure you know each step! Bon Appétit!


Bring out the Inner Child

Skyzone

Skyzone

Who doesn’t like to have fun and reminisce on the joys of being a kid. Take your valentine to a place like Skyzone, Indoor Go Kart Racing, or even Laser Tag. Get your adrenaline up and just relax or make it a friendly competition with the winner picking their choice of dinner. Enjoy a mini escape from reality and let loose with your valentine, letting out your inner child!


Masterfile

Masterfile

Hit the Beach

Depending on where you are, it may be too cold during Valentine’s Day to do this. However, if you’re in a warm environment or not afraid of a chilly beach day, bring your Valentine to the beach, take a walk on the boardwalk and sand while basking in the views of the ocean. Pack a picnic basket and blanket and have a lunch by the shore.

 

Enjoy your Valentine’s Day and remember to cherish each moment!

When cuffing season ain't for you
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It’s that time of the year when people want to be bae’d up, cuddled, and have relationship goal posts on their social media for their followers to envy. With the weather being cold, it sounds like the perfect opportunity to set sights on a new bae. If you haven’t by now, there’s still a little bit time before cuffing season ends, then we roll over into spring time, swimsuit and sundress season.

This isn’t to say go rush into a new fling. Sometimes you have to realize this season is not for you, and it is perfectly fine to skip over cuffing season whether by choice or not. Don’t let your single status get you in a slump! This is a mini-guide on how to live your best life when cuffing season just ain’t for you.

 

 

 

Slow down on the single memes

We get it, you’re lonely and single AF. But guess what? No one really cares.

Being a Debbie Downer or continuously complaining about how you’re spending V-Day by yourself only makes others want to stay away due to you putting off negative vibes. Instead, find motivational affirmations that will brighten your mood and encourage you to think about self-love, your passions, and enjoying your life. Also, it is important to realize you do not need someone to complete you!

Plan ahead for the future

Use this time to come up with a strategic plan on how to tackle your goals. We all have to-do lists on things we want to accomplish, but it is hard to get to the finish line if we don’t have an action plan.

Take this time of singleness to draft out your short term steps to complete your long term goals. Whether you want to get your summer body ready and need to work on your nutrition, or revitalizing your LinkedIn profile to secure the bag. Personal and professional development on yourself is essential to your growth. Start a Trello board to map out your next major goal now.

Explore a New Hobby

This is a good season to get back to something you enjoy doing or exploring new activities you didn’t even know you liked. Maybe there’s a new dodgeball league starting up or you always wanted to take up pole dancing classes;now is a great time to start. You will not only take your mind off of this cuffing season, but you will be re-focusing your energy on something that you will enjoy.

Some other great hobbies to try are blogging, podcasting, learning to code, cooking, crafting and volunteering. Who knows? Your new hobby may lead you to something unexpected like a new stream of income or perhaps undiscovered skills, so just go for it!

Reconnect with Old Friends & Make New Friends

Don’t feel like you have to be alone because cuffing season is in full force. Spend some time with your friends and catch up. You could have a bowling night or a movie night; better yet, host a Drinks & Discussions night with each person bringing a plus one and have everyone write a question or topic that will go into a bowl, then you will take turns discussing each one.

If you want to make new friends, look into joining a group on Meetup.com. There is a group for everything you can think of from gamers, non-profits, natural hair enthusiasts and more. Even if you can’t find a group, they give you the ability to create your own based on your interests.

Travel

It’s time to venture out! Yes it sounds super cute to go on a baecation, but you can enjoy traveling alone or with a group of people. There are a plethora of travel groups that embrace solo travelers to come along on trips that they have planned out. Whether you want to collect stamps on your passport and visit the Blue Lagoon in Iceland or take a road trip to the Pocono Mountains, there are so many sights to see across this globe.

Cuffing season also means there are more deals since a lot of people travel less during this time! Even if you aren’t ready for a trip too far away, treat yourself to a staycation and view your own backyard as a tourist would, you’ll be surprised what you will discover.

Don’t Settle

Last but not least, know your worth. Just because you are single, does not mean you should accept any person that comes your way. People can get vulnerable and weak due to desiring a relationship, but everyone is not right for you. There are many that prey on the weak during cuffing season, getting this person’s hopes up that it will blossom into more.

Make sure you have your standards set, don’t lose your morals, and appreciate who you are. If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, work on it and improve. Use this time to live your best life and not accept nonsense from anyone.

Enjoy the rest of cuffing season, even if you are enjoying it single.

Are You Really Ready for an Open Relationship?
“Monogamy or whatever you call it. I’m starting to think it ain’t for everybody. Most of us is rushing into it anyways.”
— Wale

Some people want the picture perfect family; a husband or wife, kids, beautiful house, and a pet dog. You know, the American Dream. But not everyone wants this ideal scenario. Some people want all of their options.

A Polyamory Relationship is having the choice to be with multiple partners in an intimate way, with all partners aware of each other. Although, these types of relationships have dated back to the 1800s, there wasn’t a title for it until around the 1970s when “swinging” amongst married couples became popular.

An open relationship may come across as a pleasurable, exciting, and guilt-free time, but can you honestly handle it? Let’s see by answering three questions..

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Netflix

Can you share your partner or yourself with other people?

A lot of people like the idea of being intimate with multiple people. Each person can please you in a different way, whether it be physically, mentally or emotionally. On the physical side of things, this sparks a higher chance of catching or passing sexually transmitted diseases if everyone isn’t taking precautionary measures of using protection. It is important for all partners involved to be honest about how many people they are intimate with as well as practicing safe sex with each. This definitely involves trusting not just one partner, but all that you choose to be with at during this time period.

Sharing your partner or yourself can also enable jealousy.  One partner may outperform the other, turning the relationships into a competition that may cause tension. Even though it’s an open relationship, you may find yourself curious about what your partner is getting from someone else that you may not be able to provide.

Are you able to control your emotions?

Having the freedom to be with who you want while still having a partner seems like a great way to stay happy and stress free, but what happens when your feelings get too deeply involved in the new person you bring into your open relationship? It is easy for some people to have sex with no feelings attached, yet spending that time with someone else can trigger stronger emotions. These emotions you feel can shift your energy levels between each partner. Caring for multiple people at one time is manageable, but it doesn’t make it simple. When you are mad at one partner about something, it is important not to dump those bad vibes on the other person.

With that being said, are you capable of controlling any envy of your partner developing a strong bond or feelings of love for who he or she chooses to bring into the open relationship? If not, then it is probably best to reconsider having an open relationship.

Will you be able to balance your time between multiple partners?

Your main partner wants to go out tonight at 8:00pm to see this new movie, but your other partner, who never leaves you disappointed in bed, also wants to spend time with you at 9:00pm. Which partner gets your time?

HBO

HBO

Sure you can have one reschedule, but now it looks like you value one more than the other. There are ways to make each partner feel equally important to you, or you can make your own rules as to how each person is prioritized. Depending on the type of open relationship you’re in, you could also be the one getting pushed to the end of the list in terms of quality time. Are you ready to deal with the added drama this may cause?

So, do you Gotta Have It all or are you fine with just one partner? It’s ultimately up to you and your partner to make this decision. If anything at all doesn’t sit well with either of you, you are most likely not ready. Don’t be afraid to venture into the polyamory world, but wrap it up, keep an open mind, and enjoy it, if you’re really ready.

They say you can’t have cake and eat it too, but ain’t that what you s’posed to do?
— Trey Songz
'Paverbs': Tales of the city

This is one a lot of people won't feel but I'm going to try to help you understand. When you living that life, especially in Hollywood, you meet so many people.

Think about it... let's say you go out four days a week. In those four days you might meet a group of women from out of the country, another group of women from out of town, a couple college girls as well as some girls who don't come out much but probably got drug out by their friends tonight.

The girls that you meet from out of town probably just want to party, so if they're in town for four days you might end up spending four straight nights with that group of girls. But they cycle out at the end of the week & a new roster comes in & it's the same thing rotated over & over again.

Also, people just fall off the map sometimes. People get girlfriends/boyfriends or maybe the occasional job or some people just end up moving back home because the city got too crazy. Everything is so fast so in three months the whole landscape of everything might have changed. The doormen at spots might be different, your favorite bartender might be gone... anything is possible. So a Hollywood 3 months is like a normal person's year because things switch over so fast when you are living at that speed. Everything & everyone, for the most part, is temporary.

Again, a Hollywood 3 months is like a normal year, so when you break that down 48 hours is like a week & half. If you meet a girl & she's living that life in a 48 hour span she probably meets about 10-20 guys & that's on a light week.

So from the time you take that IG or number down you are on the clock. I call it the "First 48". By noon of the next day if you haven't reached out to engage in some kind of conversation with her you're already losing. Also, you have to take into account that when you met her she was probably some type of intoxicated so she might not even remember that she met you in 48 hours.

You can play it how you want to play it but here's my advice: hit her up around Noon-2pm & tell her how nice it was to meet her & ask what she's getting into that night. See where she's going, make plans to pop up there, grab a drink, have a quick convo, keep it cool & then make plans for drinks for the following week.

Again, the first 48 hours is pivotal. How you play it will determine if you just see her around or if she's showing up with you.

First off, let's dive into who Tom Thibodeau is. He's the former coach of the Bulls during the D. Rose era & currently the coach of the Minnesota Timberwolves. He also should probably be in a jail for manslaugter for what he did to Luol Deng, Joakim Noah & D. Rose's knees but that's neither here no there. One thing he doesn't believe in is playing rookies. He values experience over potential in most situations.

Take that logic & apply it to women who just moved to the city. You can't date them, don't do it. They need to go through some stuff first before you can lock them down if that's your plan. LA is a crazy place: no matter where in America you come from there's nothing like it, especially for an attractive woman.

The allure is crazy & there's a 99% chance she's going to get some kind of caught up in it & she needs to. She needs to understand how the city works & get everything out of her system before you even attempt to put that type of life in front of her. Also the city has a way of making you the struggle version of yourself, especially if you have any type of self esteem issues which you don't need to be around for. Let her make her mistakes & go through what she has to go through & if it's real like that, ya'll will link up again when she's more settled in & has a little bit better understand of how the city works.

There's so much more that goes into a successful relationship besides having things in common with a person. When I was younger I thought similar interests were the end-all be-all but usually it isn't.

In most situations a person too much like you is actually a toxic situation. You don't need to date yourself; you need somebody to offset you & your faults & you need to be able to do the same with somebody else. Similar interests are cool but I'd rather have somebody around who forces me to be uncomfortable & puts me in those situations because that's how growth happens.

I think this tweet is pretty self-explanatory but I'll give you the story behind it.

Me & Scott were at this event & happened to meet these two women through one of my homies who were absolutely BEAUTIFUL. When they walked through the door I instantly knew they modeled & you know how much I love models. Usually I'm never bashful about shooting my shot but this time I backed off & kept it cool. Honestly, they looked like they were a little outside of my tax bracket at the moment.

Fast forward to the next day, one of my other homies calls me to recap the night. We get to talking about some of the girls who were there, then he mentioned them & then said they were going to come to the Doheny Room with us after, but she found somewhere to stay for the night....she's homeless.

There are so many stories like this around the city. So many women that you would never imagine would be living this way are living this way. The city is a crazy place. 

Four ways to sustain your platonic friendships while dating
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Fox Searchlight Pictures

There has always been the debate that women and men cannot strictly be “just friends” without there being sexual desires. Platonic friendships come under even greater scrutiny when you’re in a committed relationship. Your significant other may feel jealous or insecure, or insinuate that there’s more to this situation than just camaraderie. It can be healthy to have a friend of the opposite sex to share perspective on how your actions may be affecting your mate or to get the point of view from the other gender.

The question is, how do you make sure your friendship remains strong as well as your relationship? Here are four ways to sustain both:

Communication

Inform your significant other that you have friends of the opposite sex so that it doesn’t come off as a surprise. Communication is key, and when you’re able to have conversations about the people in your life that matter, you don’t have to neglect your platonic friend that was there before your relationship. Keeping it in the dark can come off as sneaky and spark insecurities.

Introduce Them

It can be uneasy meeting any friend of a significant other, but it can also be a new friendship in the making. Introducing your platonic friend to your boyfriend or girlfriend can alleviate some of the doubts and questions that may have existed.

Throw a game night or plan a brunch where your friends and your significant other will be able to mingle. You can casually introduce them to each other in a welcoming environment full of laughter, conversations, and chill vibes. Setting the right atmosphere helps put everyone at ease.

Balance Your Time

Before your relationship, maybe you hung out with your platonic friend a lot, grabbing a bite to eat or hitting different events together. There has to be respect for your relationship. By no means should you abandon your friends, but recognize that your quality time has to be re-prioritized.

For example, your significant other may want to go to a basketball game together, but your platonic friend also invited you out the same night to go to a movie. A decision will be have to made, do you go out with your significant other or your platonic friend? The choice is yours, but going out with your platonic friend may leave your significant other feeling that you value that friendship more than your own relationship, or that there is something more going on. Sometimes you will have to tell your platonic friend no, and that is okay. Whether it be talking on the phone every once in a while, hosting a potluck or kickback, going to happy hour, volunteering, or any number of other activities, there are plenty of ways to maintain friendships without interfering with your relationship.

Set Boundaries

HBO

HBO

Boundaries! Yes, you must set boundaries when it comes to platonic friendships. Although you may have no attractiveness towards your friend of the opposite sex, that doesn’t mean that they feel the same way about you.

There may be activities that can be deemed inappropriate to do with your platonic friend. These should be determined by having a conversation with your significant other on do’s and don’ts, regarding your friends to make sure that lines are not being crossed when spending time with them. Some boundaries you may want to set with your platonic friend are: no flirting, no physical touching, no sexual innuendos, a general best practice of not doing anything in private that you would not be able to do in public or in front of your significant other. If this friend can't abide by these boundaries, then are they really a platonic friend? Think about it.

These methods should make it a little easier to sustain both your relationships and platonic friendships. Remember that the most important part to maintaining a healthy balance is using your best judgment. If you have any other tips, please share them in the comments below.